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얼마전에 SNS에서 알게 된 정말 괜찮은 페이지. A Mighty Girl. 

https://www.facebook.com/amightygirl/info?tab=page_info
http://www.amightygirl.com/

페이스북에 설명은 "어마이티걸은 소녀들을 똑똑하고 자신감넘치고 용감하게 키우려는 부모와 선생님들, 그리고 그들의 친구들을 위한 곳입니다. 이를 위해 세계 최대 규모의 책, 장난감, 영화 등을 제공합니다. A Mighty Girl is the world’s largest collection of books, toys, and movies for parents, teachers, and others dedicated to raising smart, confident, and courageous girls." 

A Mighty Girl FB 페이지에는 주로 전통적 성역할을 이겨내거나 이에 맞서는 여성들, 이들의 활약상을 소개하거나 다양한 문화적 백그라운드를 지닌 세계 곳곳의 여성들을 소개하여 여성으로 태어나고 자라는 소녀들에게 자신감을 북돋우는 포스팅들을 올린다. 때로는 아주 종종 성폭력을 근절하기 위해 아들과 딸을 어떻게 키울 것인지에 관한 내용들도 올린다. 이런 교육을 어렸을 때부터 받았더라면 얼마나 좋았을까, 그런 생각이 들지만 앞으로 우리 아이들 세대들만이라도 이런 교육을 받을 수 있다면 -- 나의 몸과 상대의 몸을 존중할 수 있는 교육을 받을 수 있다면 정말 좋겠다,는 바람을 품어본다. 비슷한 내용의 한글 자료가 이미 있는 것 같은데 주로 어린 소녀들을 대상으로 하는 자료들만 본 것 같다. 남자 아이들과 청소년 이상을 대상으로 하는 자료가 있는지 그것은 나도 잘 모르겠다. 

(물론 A Mighty Girl 는 물건을 사고 중계하고 파는 상업적인 곳이다. 따라서 자본주의의 한계를 갖고 있다며 비판한다면 그 비판은 그 자체로 유의미할 것이다.)

이 곳에서 지난 2월 말에 "건강한 성교육 이야기: "합의"가 뭐예욤? 1살부터 21살의 친구들을 위해Healthy Sex Talk: Teaching Kids Consent, Ages 1-21" 의 자료를 올렸다. 

https://www.facebook.com/amightygirl/posts/809498729086442:0

이것을 한글로 옮기면 좋겠는데 한글도 영어도 잘 못하고 있어 도무지 엄두가 안 난다. 할 수 있겠지. 할 수 있을 거야 아마도. --- 끙

This excellent article offers parents concrete advice on how to "raise empowered young adults who have empathy for others and a clear understanding of healthy consent." Although it may seem like a complicated concept, especially for younger kids, it’s much more accessible than you might think. In this thoughtful piece, four editors have compiled a list of ways to talk to kids, from age 1 to 21, about consent, appropriate touch, and empathy for others. Their hope is that “parents and educators find this list of action items and teaching tools helpful, and that together we can help create a generation of children who have less rape and sexual assault in their lives.”

For children age 1 to 5, they suggest simple things -- for example, “teach your kids that 'no' and 'stop' are important words and should be honored" and “allow children to talk about their body in any way they want, without shame.” For children age 5 to 12, they recommend “[encouraging] kids to watch each others’ facial expressions during play to be sure everyone’s happy and on the same page" and “[teaching] kids to look for opportunities to help." For teens and young adults, they maintain that "education about 'good touch/bad touch' remains crucial, particularly in middle school" and that it's important to teach them that “their feelings, desires and needs are no one’s responsibility but their own. They still need to practice kindness and respect for everyone around them.”

To read the full article, published on The Good Men Project, with all of the tips for each age group, visit http://bit.ly/1oHk4jz

There are also several excellent books that are helpful for talking to young children about body privacy and touch including “Your Body Belongs To You” for ages 3 to 7 (http://www.amightygirl.com/your-body-belongs-to-you), "Those Are MY Private Parts!" for ages 3 to 6 (http://www.amightygirl.com/those-are-my-private-parts) and “An Exceptional Child’s Guide to Touch,” which is especially geared toward children with special needs, for ages 3 to 7 or the equivalent developmental age (http://www.amightygirl.com/an-exceptional-children-s-guide-…).

For more resources for younger girls in preschool and early elementary school, check out the recommendations in our post ""Talking with Younger Girls about their Bodies," at http://www.amightygirl.com/blog/?p=2006

For our recommended books to help your tween or teen understand the changes she's experiencing both physically and emotionally during puberty and adolescence, visit our post on “Talking with Tweens and Teens About Their Bodies” at http://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=2229

For two great parenting books that address teaching children about health and sexuality that offer tips for how to incorporate your family’s values about everything from dating to clothing choices to what constitutes a supportive relationship, check out "From Diapers to Dating" (http://www.amightygirl.com/from-diapers-to-dating) which covers infancy to age 12, and "Beyond the Big Talk" (http://www.amightygirl.com/beyond-the-big-talk), which addresses middle school, high school, and the early college years.

And, for parents of children with Down syndrome and other intellectual disabilities, this is a helpful resource on this topic: "Teaching Children With Down Syndrome About Their Bodies, Boundaries, And Sexuality" athttp://www.amightygirl.com/teaching-children-with-ds